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I'm worried about someone I know

One in four women experience domestic abuse. Someone you know may be experiencing domestic abuse. It might be a family member, a friend or colleague.

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It can be difficult to know what to do when someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse.

For a lot of people, the first instinct is to try to rescue someone from the relationship by trying to convince and tell the person that they have to leave. However, it is almost never as easy as “just leaving”. Leaving an abusive relationship can be the most dangerous and risky time for women.

It is very important not to isolate them, judge them or add more pressure to them by telling or asking them to end the relationship. There are other ways in which you can help them. These include:

1. Provinding an ear to listen when they feel ready. 2. Do not judge or question the choices they have made they may have had no other options or choices. 3. Avoid making them feel like they are a bad mum or that they are not looking after their children. 4. Believe them and what they are telling you. 5. Sensitively and respectfully convey that the behaviours they are describing are not normal or healthy experiences in a loving, caring relationship. 6. Avoid criticising or insulting their partner/ex-partner. This could make them stop talking to you or feel like they should be defending them. 7. Let them know that there is support available for them and their children.

Remember they might not open up to you the first time that you speak to them about abuse. Be patient and give them opportunities to talk without putting pressure on them. It can be a really difficult topic to talk about and it is hard to imagine what they are going through.